One of the most obvious traits of fake people is the inconsistency in their behavior. They tend to behave in one way around certain people, and then totally differently around others. Along the way, they they adjust their words, their tone, and even their personality to suit the situation.
For instance, a person may be warm and friendly around people of authority, while being cold and distant around others, or they may adopt the interests, opinions, and even the personality of those they try to impress. This can be quite confusing for people around them since it becomes difficult to know who they really are and what they really think. According to psychologists, this is usually a result of the need for social approval or a manipulation of a situation to suit their own ends.
Over time, a pattern starts to develop where the fake individual adjusts, exaggerates, or even makes up things for the sake of winning favor, attention, or influence. In such cases, their words often contradict their actions, and their promises or views may change based on who is listening. Friends, coworkers, or a romantic partner can easily notice that something is off.
These inconsistencies can easily cause damage and emotional distress for those attempting to keep a relationship with the fake individual. The truth is, of course, that everyone occasionally adjusts their behavior in a social setting. However, fake people make a habit of inconsistency, which leaves others wondering what their motives, intentions, and authenticity are in every interaction.
2. Constant Need for Validation
People who are fake tend to be very dependent on the validation of others in order to feel safe.
What this means is that many of these individuals tend to seek compliments, reassurance, or approval on a frequent basis and seem to enjoy being the center of attention in a social setting. This is not necessarily apparent or deliberate, but it can have a tendency to impact their interactions with others over time. Conversations may tend to revolve around their accomplishments, concerns, or needs, with less room for actual dialogue.
When so much energy is invested in being liked or admired, it can be really difficult to settle into a relationship in which being honest and showing your emotions is more important than being liked. Over time, things can begin to feel a little bit skin-deep, because the emphasis is on gaining approval instead on getting to know one another.
And although it’s true that each of us needs a little bit of encouragement from time to time, being too dependent on what others think of you and feeling constant need of approval can make it difficult to build a balanced relationship.
3. Master of Manipulation
CONTINUE READING...>>
To see the full instructions for this recipe, go to the next page or click the open button (>) and don't forget to share it with your friends on Facebook.
