Why it hurts: It puts the burden on the grieving person (who’s overwhelmed) to ask for help they may not even know they need.
What to say instead:
“I’m bringing dinner Tuesday—chicken or pasta?”
“I’ll walk your dog this week. No need to reply.”
“I’m handling school pickup for the kids tomorrow.”
❤️ What to Do Instead: Be Present, Not Perfect
- Listen more than you speak. Silence is okay.
- Say the deceased’s name. People fear they’ll be forgotten.
- Offer specific help. Grief is exhausting—concrete support matters most.
- Follow up weeks later. That’s when isolation often hits hardest.
“Grief is not a problem to be solved—it’s a presence to be honored.”
Your quiet presence, a warm hug, or a simple “I’m so sorry” will always mean more than any attempt to explain the unexplainable.
In the end, love isn’t measured in perfect words—but in showing up, heart open, and staying awhile. 💛
