To name what is happening, without beating around the bush
Another remarkably effective phrase is this:
"I see what you're doing, and I don't accept it."
Manipulation relies on what is left unsaid. When a behavior is named, it loses much of its power. Putting words to a situation allows one to move beyond confusion and regain a clear position.
This is neither an attack nor a reproach. It's an observation. And very often, that's enough to rebalance the relationship... or to reveal that it wasn't balanced at all.
Refusing to carry other people's emotions
Emotionally strong people also use this key phrase:
"I am responsible for my emotions, not yours."
It puts an end to a common manipulation: making the other person responsible for one's unhappiness. Each person remains responsible for their own reactions, choices, and emotional management. Refusing this transference is a way to protect oneself without closing the door to dialogue.
The sentence that says it all, without any possible discussion
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